With the exception of BixCON Away, these events are all at our house. That certainly limits attendance levels. (We do live in a modest home).
That said, we strive very very hard to maintain a positive, fun, social vibe for all of our BixCON events. The atmosphere for these gatherings is an important reason they are successful and such a highlight in our lives. With that in mind, we have to be careful to protect and nurture these events with the right mix of attendees.
Things we value:
- Positive attitudes.
- Caring & compassionate people.
- People who do not take themselves too seriously.
- Willingness to help and get involved at our events.
- Humility & Humbleness.
Things we do not care for:
- Alpha competitive behaviour.
- Self-centered people.
- Sore losers.
- Sore winners.
- Drinking & driving.
- Agendas. Looking at these gatherings as a marketing opportunity.
This may all sound really simple & silly, but it is amazing how much an errant behaviour can be toxic to a group setting. We guard our values vigilantly. We cherish these gatherings and hope to see them grow and flourish for many years / decades.
That means these events are ALL on an invite only basis. All of the events are a little bit different so we add a person here or there to certain event invite lists and occasionally remove a person as well. Most of our invitees tend to be people we also socialize with outside the hobby of boardgames. You know; friends.
I often get questions like” “How can I get invited?” The answer is really quite simple: Be an awesome person.
Perhaps if you want to be invited into our home, you should maybe invest some time cultivating a friendship. Maybe you could invite us into your home, or take some initiative in nurturing a friendship that exists outside of boardgames. That may sound catty or harsh, but we host so many events that in the past some people started to treat our home as a public venue and began to treat us like entertainment providers. I had to put a stop to that. One of the risks of being as open and public as Kathy & I are is that some of our friends and acquaintances feel hurt when they are not invited. Don’t be; please don’t be.
Part of the reason I am even writing this is because I have a number of friends around the world who are interested in how these events run and what goes into making them a success. I tend to be very open about our events and things going on in our life. That is both good and bad. I think is it good to share our passions and interests openly. An unfortunate byproduct of being open and transparent on social media is that some of the people in our life feel excluded. Please don’t feel that way. Hope all of this makes sense, it probably comes off as a bit elitist, but it is not meant to. Just being honest and open about how we approach these things and the practicality around running events in our home.