With the exception of one of the BixCON events, they are all at our house. That certainly limits attendance levels. (We do live in a modest home).
That said, we strive very very hard to maintain a positive, fun, social vibe for all of our BixCON events. The atmosphere for these gatherings is an important reason they are successful and such a highlight in our lives. With that in mind, we have to be careful to protect and nurture these events with the right mix of attendees.
Things we value:
- Positive attitudes.
- Caring & compassionate people.
- People who do not take themselves too seriously.
- Willingness to help and get involved at our events.
- Humility & Humbleness.
Things we do not care for:
- Alpha competitive behaviour.
- Self-centered people.
- Sore losers.
- Sore winners.
- Drinking & driving.
- Agendas. Looking at these gatherings as a marketing opportunity.
This may all sound really simple & silly, but it is amazing how much an errant behaviour can be toxic to a group setting. I guard this vigilantly. We cherish these gatherings and hope to see them grow and flourish for many years / decades.
That means these events are ALL on an invite only basis. All of the events are a little bit different so we add a person here or there to certain event invite lists and occasionally remove a person as well. Most of our invitees tend to be people we also socialize with outside the hobby of boardgames. You know; friends.
I often get questions like” “How can I get invited?” The answer is really quite simple: Be an awesome person.
Perhaps if you want to be invited into our home, you should maybe invest some time cultivating a friendship. Maybe you could invite us into your home, or take some initiative in nurturing a friendship that exists outside of boardgames. That may sound catty or harsh, but we host so many events that in the past some people started to treat our home as a public venue and began to treat us like entertainment providers. I had to put a stop to that. One of the risks of being as open and public as Kathy & I are is that some of our friends and acquaintances feel hurt when they are not invited. Don’t be; please don’t be.
Part of the reason I am even writing this is because I have a number of friends around the world who are interested in how these events run and what goes into making them a success.
Hope that makes sense, it probably comes off as a bit elitist, but it is not meant to. Just being honest and open about how we approach these things and the practicality around running events in our home.